FROM DUST TO DUST AND BONES. MY FATHER KEE NAI SENG WAS CREMATED IN KOTA BARU KELANTAN AS PER HIS WISHES IN 2016. I THOUGHT HIS CORPSE WOULD BE TURNED INTO DUST BUT I WAS SHOCKED TO DISCOVER THERE WERE BONE FRAGMENTS ALSO WHICH WERE ARRANGED LIKE A SKELETON DURING HALLOWEEN! MY COUSIN KEE HUI BENG DIED ON 31 OCTOBER 2020 SOME 10 DAYS AGO WHICH REMINDED ME OF MY DAD'S CREMATED REMAINS. BOTH MY FATHER AND MY COUSIN ARE NOW REJOICING IN HEAVEN WITH BUDDHA, KUANYIN AND MANJUSRI .
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FINAL FUNERAL RITES AND RITUALS FOR MY PAPA KEE NAI SENG
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MY FATEHR KEE NAI SENG DIED AT DAWN ON MONDAY (NOW I KNOW WHY IT IS CALLED BLACK MONDAY) 1 AUGUST 2016.
Papa usually woke around 6 am every morning, latest 6.30 am so when Mum woke around 6.30 am she was surprised Papa was not up yet. She went into my bedroom where he slept on my bed and saw him sleeping apparently in deep slumber. Mum was pleased as he had complained about not sleeping well for the last 2 nights. So she left the bedroom to allow him to sleep longer.
Mum was actually delighted as the night before, Dad had eaten a hearty dinner of kolo mee, orange and grapes. For the past 2 days he hardly ate and only drank glucose water. She said Papa told her it was a delicious meal and around 10.30 pm he decided to go to bed and now he was sleeping soundly.
However, her sixth sense indicated maybe something was wrong so 15 minutes later Mum returned to my bedroom and tried arouse him by calling his name 'Seng'. She recalled seeing a slight smile on his serene face yet she felt something was wrong.
She shook him and happiness turned into horror as his hands were horridly cold though they were still soft as rigor mortis had not set in.
I can imagine Mum wailing her husband's name and begging him to wake and have breakfast with her and fearing the worst. She phoned my cousins living nextdoor who rushed over and texted me in Bangkok. The first SMS said my father could not wake up which made my heart sink followed by the worst message I ever received in my life which said my father had just passed away. I collapsed in room 1828 at Shangri-La Bangkok.
How I managed to shower and walk into the lobby to tell my host TAT Tourism Authority of Thailand I had to fly back to Kuala Lumpur and Kota Baru remains a blur. TAT was the perfect host and I could not ask for more as they booked me on the first flight available and paid for everything including 2 tickets on 2 different flights should I miss the first connecting flight from KL to KB! Plus a limousine from Shangri-La Bangkok to Suvanabhumi airport accompanied by Ranit Tokrisna from TAT Thailand to make sure I was alright and boarded AirAsia safely.
MY PAPA KEE NAI SENG DIED AGED 95 IN HIS SLEEP SUFFERING NO PAIN AND GIVING NONE TO HIS WIFE AND SON SO MUM AND I COULD NOT ASK FOR MORE AND WE THANK BUDDHA FOR THIS PEACEFUL DEATH BLESSING
MY PAPA IN HIS 'TUA CHOO' (GRAND MANSION A.K.A COFFIN) LOOKING SO SERENE AND PEACEFUL BUT AFTER CREMATION, I WAS STUNNED TO SEE HIS HUMAN FORM WAS NOW REDUCED INTO SKELETAL FRAGMENTS BELOW!
I ALMOST COLLAPSED WHEN WE ARRIVED AT CREMATORIUM IN KAMPUNG DALAM TO SEE MY FATHER'S SKELETAL REMAINS ARRANGED ON TABLE IN FRONT OF FURNACE!
THIS IS MY FATHER KEE NAI SENG!
SO WHITE AND CLEAN AND SO FINAL!
I COULD NOT BELIEVE THIS WAS MY FATHER!
MY TUASOH AND MUM UNWRAPPING THE URN TO PUT MY FATHER'S SKELETAL REMAINS
MUM CHOSE THIS URN
MY FATHER NOW REDUCED INTO BONE FRAGMENTS THE SIZE OF A CHILD!
DAD WAS CREMATED INSIDE HERE
MY TUASOH PRAYING TO MY FATHER
WITH MUM
SO SAD
MONK CHANTING PRAYERS
AND APPLYING POWDER
WE BROUGHT PERFUME BUT IT WAS NOT NEEDED
MY MOTHER ANG SIEW SOH APPLYING POWDER ON THE BONE FRAGMENTS OF HER HUSBAND AND SOULMATE KEE NAI SENG, MY FATHER
SO WE ARE REDUCED TO THIS!
PREPARING THE URN WHERE I WOULD PUT PAPA'S BONE FRAGMENTS FROM THE FEET UPWARDS TILL THE SKULL
DATO KEE HUA CHEE PLACING HIS FATHER'S BONES INSIDE THE URN, STARTING FROM THE FEET
I ALWAYS THOUGHT SUCH URNS CONTAINED ASHES AND NOT BONES!
MY DAD'S ASHES WERE BURIED IN THE GARDEN BEHIND!
LUCKILY MY COUSIN RICHARD KOE TOOK THESE PHOTOS AS I DON'T REMEMBER DOING THIS! MY MIND WAS BLURRED AND MY BRAINS SUFFERED A MELTDOWN
SADDEST TASK EVER FOR MOTHER AND SON!
MY TUASOH WAS A PILLAR OF STRENGTH AND SUPPORT WITH MY COUSIN KEE HUI BENG
DEAREST AND NEAREST RELATIVES ALSO HELPED PLACE DAD'S BONES INSIDE URN
RICHARD KOE AND LUCY KOE
MY POOR MUM!
MUM AND DAD WERE MARRIED FOR 66 YEARS AND NEVER BEEN APART, NOT EVEN FOR 1 DAY!
MUM WAS DEVASTATED AND HEART BROKEN AS SHE PUT THE BONES OF HER HUSBAND INSIDE URN GENTLY AND CAREFULLY
MUM PLACED THE SKULL FRAGMENTS ON TOP OF THE REST
MY FATHER WAS NOW REDUCED TO THIS!
AN ENTIRE HUMAN IS NOW INSIDE A JAR
MORE POWDER
URN IS SEALED
IMAGE OF MY FATHER'S SKELETAL REMAINS, JUST LIKE THE SHROUD OF TURIN WHICH SHOWS THE FACE AND BODY OF JESUS CHRIST
THE CLOTH IS RED AS MY FATHER LIVED TO SUCH AN OLD AGE OF 95
GENTLY DOES IT
THAT IS MY FATHER INSIDE!
SHE IS REALLY GOOD
THE CLOTH IS RED AS MY FATHER DIED AGED 95 WHICH IS CONSIDERED VERY AUSPICIOUS AND LUCKY
MORE SO WHEN DAD DIED PEACEFULLY IN HIS SLEEP, SUFFERING NO PAIN AND GIVING NONE TO HIS WIFE AND SON
I WROTE THIS IN MY BEST HAND WRITING
SON, FATHER AND MOTHER!
DATO KEE HUA CHEE, KEE NAI SENG AND ANG SIEW SOH
URN CONTAINING MY FATHER'S BONE FRAGMENTS IS NOW PLACED BEHIND BUDDHA IN WAT CHON PHRA CHUMTHAT NEXT TO CREMATORIUM IN KAMPUNG DALAM, KELANTAN
ON 18 SEPTEMBER 2016, 49 DAYS AFTER MY FATHER'S DEATH, WE WILL BRING THIS URN TO DOUBLE DRAGON TEMPLE IN BACHOK
DAD AND MUM BOUGHT A SHRINE FOR 3 URNS IN DOUBLE DRAGON TEMPLE DECADES AGO FOR THIS PURPOSE
ONE DAY MY FATHER, MOTHER AND I WILL ALL BE REUNITED AGAIN WITH THE BLESSINGS OF BUDDHA
MUM AND MY COUSIN RICHARD KOE
TUA SOH AND MUM
LUCY KOE
DATO KEE HUA CHEE TOUCHING URN CONTAINING HIS FATHER'S BONE FRAGMENTS
ANG SIEW SOH AND SO N DATO KEE HUA CHEE
MY MOTHER ANG SIEW SOH GAZING LOVINGLY AT HER HUSBAND'S PHOTO AND CRYING
WAT CHON PHRA CHUMTHAT
THE MAIN HALL OF WAT CHON PHRA CHUMTHAT
MY FATEHR KEE NAI SENG DIED AT DAWN ON MONDAY (NOW I KNOW WHY IT IS CALLED BLACK MONDAY) 1 AUGUST 2016.
Papa usually woke around 6 am every morning, latest 6.30 am so when Mum woke around 6.30 am she was surprised Papa was not up yet. She went into my bedroom where he slept on my bed and saw him sleeping apparently in deep slumber. Mum was pleased as he had complained about not sleeping well for the last 2 nights. So she left the bedroom to allow him to sleep longer.
Mum was actually delighted as the night before, Dad had eaten a hearty dinner of kolo mee, orange and grapes. For the past 2 days he hardly ate and only drank glucose water. She said Papa told her it was a delicious meal and around 10.30 pm he decided to go to bed and now he was sleeping soundly.
However, her sixth sense indicated maybe something was wrong so 15 minutes later Mum returned to my bedroom and tried arouse him by calling his name 'Seng'. She recalled seeing a slight smile on his serene face yet she felt something was wrong.
She shook him and happiness turned into horror as his hands were horridly cold though they were still soft as rigor mortis had not set in.
I can imagine Mum wailing her husband's name and begging him to wake and have breakfast with her and fearing the worst. She phoned my cousins living nextdoor who rushed over and texted me in Bangkok. The first SMS said my father could not wake up which made my heart sink followed by the worst message I ever received in my life which said my father had just passed away. I collapsed in room 1828 at Shangri-La Bangkok.
How I managed to shower and walk into the lobby to tell my host TAT Tourism Authority of Thailand I had to fly back to Kuala Lumpur and Kota Baru remains a blur. TAT was the perfect host and I could not ask for more as they booked me on the first flight available and paid for everything including 2 tickets on 2 different flights should I miss the first connecting flight from KL to KB! Plus a limousine from Shangri-La Bangkok to Suvanabhumi airport accompanied by Ranit Tokrisna from TAT Thailand to make sure I was alright and boarded AirAsia safely.
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